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Awareness is Discernment

I am thinking of what the New Year holds for many including myself.  Many will enter this New Year trapped by the Shame of their addictions.  Indeed I was trapped by a lack of understanding of truly how many are suffering in this Prison of Shame.  I know that I must bring Awareness to the issue of Pornography addiction, but Awareness alone will not stem the tide or build a Barrier strong enough to withstand this onslaught!

I firmly believe that any leader spiritual or secular worth their weight must take action on this issue or your leadership is in a decaying state.  What we continue to ignore today will not only haunt us, but it will destroy us.  This is true of any systematic problem within our ranks.

He Set Me Free is not only going to bring awareness to this issue we will fill the vacuum created by stripping away the layers of shame and rebuke with Godly principles that Advance the Kingdom of God.  We will define sex and sexuality along with right and wrong the way God has ordained for it to be defined.  We will fill these voids and vacuums with the proper definitions of thoughts and behaviors that will allow a person, young and old alike to escape this prison once and for all.

Enjoy the article reposted below from website http://www.realtruth.org.  It will bring you further awareness to what we are facing.

Pornography’s Devastating Impact

Rewired Relationships

BY EDWARD L. WINKFIELD
JANUARY 31, 2014

Pornography is entering the mainstream. You need to know about its effects!

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Picture a consummate business professional. He can always be counted on by colleagues to “close the deal.” He is sharp, well-spoken and organized. He has a wife and two children, and works hard to build a solid foundation for them.

Out-of-town trips require him to travel for days at a time. When away, he sincerely misses his family and they miss him. During these trips, he makes a point to call home and talk to them. He asks his oldest daughter how her day went and “tucks” his youngest daughter in bed. He typically ends the call speaking to his wife. He reminds her of the best time to pick him up from the airport, tells her he loves her, says goodbye, and hangs up.

What now?

Glancing at the remote control on the bed, he suddenly feels a rush. He has experienced this before. Turning on the television, he recalls the immediate access he has to channels filled with make-believe realms that fulfill his fantasies, all of which are easily attainable from the convenience of his hotel suite. The next day, he emerges from his room and no one is aware of what he has watched.

This scenario is a long way from the sleaze and scandal associated with pornography in decades past. Today, many indulge themselves in this form of entertainment, some with little or no guilt before, during or afterward.

In its varying degrees, pornography is everywhere. A study by the organization Concerned Women for America (CWFA) revealed, “Hotel chains such as Marriott and Hilton earn about $190 million per year from in-room pay-per-view porn videos.”

The report continued: “According to The New Wall Street, ‘[B]ased on estimates provided by the hotel industry, at least half of all guests buy adult movies’…‘Estimates by analysts cited in the Los Angeles Times suggest that adult features generate approximately half of total hotel pay-per-view revenue in the United States, approximately $250 million annually.’”

Through the Internet, porn is also readily available on desktop computers, laptops and smartphones. Because of this, the nonprofit organization Family Safe Media reported that every second $3,075.64 is spent on pornography, 28,258 Internet users view pornography, and 372 Internet users type adult terms into search engines.

Expand ImageCatering to demand: Advertisements for an adult emporium are visible on a street in the Pigalle district of Paris, France (Jan. 12, 2011).

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The expanded availability of illicit materials means that its audience is also greater. The average age a child is first exposed to Internet pornography is 11 years old. And a staggering 90 percentof all 8- to 16-year-olds have viewed porn online—most of them while doing homework!

In fact, viewing pornography actually rewires the brain: “Pornography’s growth has been extraordinary; it accounts for 25 percent of video rentals and is the fourth most common reason people give for going online,” author Norman Doidge wrote in his book The Brain That Changes Itself.

He added: “Softcore pornography’s influence is now most profound because, now that it is no longer hidden it influences young people with little sexual experience and especially plastic minds, in the process of forming their sexual tastes and desires. Yet the plastic influence of pornography on adults can also be profound, and those who use it have no sense of the extent to which their brains are reshaped by it.”

The issue extends beyond pictures and videos as pornographic prose routinely finds its way into homes through “romance” novels and other innocent-looking volumes. Upscale shops cater to married couples looking to spice up their love lives. Partners looking for thrills can easily enter these environments, which are designed to be clean and welcoming.

Socially conservative groups decry the entire industry as an offense to traditional religious and social values. Feminists say the practice demeans and/or harms women. Yet these voices can be likened to a gentle breeze opposite gale force winds.

Although previously seen as taboo, as time goes on and pornography becomes more entrenched into mainstream society, many are asking: “Is it really all that bad?”

“Sex Sells”

Almost everyone has heard the phrase “sex sells.” Sex in media—ranging from partial nudity in music videos and fashion shows, to soft-core advertisements, to hard-core pornographic movies—is a proven concept that lines the pockets of companies and individuals.

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The mindset of some businesses, including many common corporate names, is demonstrated by an underwriting representative from the financial securities sector, as reported by CWFA, “‘I’m not a weirdo or a pervert, it’s not my deal. I’ve got kids and a family. But if I can see as an underwriter going out and making bucks on people being weird, hey, dollars are dollars. I’m not selling drugs. It’s Wall Street.’”

In describing the porn industry’s quest to find new, efficient media for their products, USA Today reported: “Online pornographers have been among the first to exploit new technology for more than a decade—from video-streaming and fee-based subscriptions to pop-up ads and electronic billing. Their bold experimentation has helped make porn one of the most profitable online industries, and their ideas are staples at Fortune 500 companies.”

Watching America’s most popular sport, football, on its biggest stage, the Super Bowl, with family illustrates the extent of the sex-and-advertising connection. From the tightly clad entertainers in the opening segment to the cheerleaders’ seductive movements to the partially clothed half-time entertainment to the sexually suggestive commercials—sex is everywhere.

The average citizen is joining in on the action and cashing in on pornography’s profits as well. Brick-and-mortar outlets are no longer a requirement to turn a profit. Many websites showcase “amateur porn”—home videos of regular people engaging in sex—and charge subscription fees to access such video collections. YouTube and similar social media sites also allow or link directly to explicit material.

Just how big is the pornography business? The following statistics were collected by Family Safe Media from a number of credible sources. Though somewhat dated, the nonprofit organization provides the most comprehensive look at a subject for which it is generally difficult to collect data.

  • Total porn revenue worldwide: $97 billion.
  • Total porn revenue in the U.S.: $13.33 billion. This exceeds the combined revenues of ABCCBS andNBC.
  • Daily pornographic search engine requests: 68 million—25 percent of total search engine requests.
  • Internet users who view porn: 42.7 percent.
  • Pornographic websites: 4.2 million—12 percent of total websites.
  • Pornographic pages: 420 million.
  • Worldwide visitors to pornographic websites: 72 million monthly.
  • U.S. adults who regularly visit Internet pornography websites: 40 million.
  • Men who admit to accessing it at work: 20 percent.
  • Women who admit to accessing it at work: 13 percent.

This overexposure and societal desensitization has resulted in pornographers pushing the envelope through ever-more bizarre content to hold the attention of their audience. This attests to society’s growing obsession and carefree attitude toward the “adult” industry—and its concrete place as a highly profitable venture.

Historical Context

Viewing such material is far from new. The term pornography combines the Greek words porne, meaning prostitute, and graphein, meaning to write. Hence, it technically can mean “to write about prostitutes.” The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines it as any depiction of erotic behavior in material intended to cause sexual excitement.

According to Microsoft Encarta Encyclopedia: “The ancient Greeks used pornographic themes in songs in Dionysian festivals, and ancient Romans painted pornographic pictures on walls in the ancient city of Pompeii. Pornography was also prevalent in some ancient Eastern cultures, such as those of India, Japan, and China…”

The Naples National Archaeological Museum in Italy is famous for its vast collection of sexually explicit objects excavated by archaeologists. The bizarre nature of the items and their elaborate details show the extent to which pornography was part of Roman culture.

The invention of the printing press further helped the spread of pornographic materials. By the 18th century, the “production of written and visual materials to appeal to audiences of all socioeconomic levels and sexual tastes” was common, Encyclopaedia Britannica stated.

Because of the intense demand, pornography became a viable business. Britannica stated that when “Queen Victoria came to the throne in Great Britain in 1837, there were more than 50 pornographic shops on Holywell Street (known as ‘Booksellers’ Row’) in London” (emphasis added).

While the public’s taste for pornography appeared to wane in the Victorian Era (1837-1901), it really just took another form. Prominent artists created works that turned what was technically pornography into more of an art form. These “culturally refined” nudes were considered classy and tasteful. This trend made sexually explicit material palatable to the upper class and scholars who would have otherwise found such subject matter morally reprehensible.

Despite efforts to redefine and expand the industry, overt pornography soon came under legal scrutiny. The Obscene Publications Act of 1857, considered the world’s first statutory law criminalizing pornography, gave British courts the power to seize and destroy offending material. America followed suit with the Comstock Act of 1873, which also included a provision banning obscene materials from being sent through the mail.

While mainstream society continued to view pornography negatively until the beginning of the 20th century, like alcohol during Prohibition, outlawing it only seemed to encourage interest. As with the printing press, further technological advancements were adapted to allow ease of access to such material.

According to Encyclopaedia Britannica: “Pornographic films were widely available no later than the 1920s, and in the 1960s their popularity enjoyed a massive upsurge. The development of videocassettes in the 1980s and digital videodiscs (DVDs) in the 1990s enabled the wide distribution of pornographic films and further encouraged their use because they could be viewed in private.”

Britannica later stated: “Pornographic images and films became even more widely available with the emergence of the Internet in the 1990s. The pornographic industry became one of the most profitable on the Internet. Apart from providing a vast marketplace for commercial pornography appealing to many diverse tastes, the Internet also encouraged many amateurs to post images of themselves…The use of webcams opened the industry even further to amateurs, allowing individuals to post live depictions of themselves, often for fees.”

Coming up with a distinct and concise definition of pornography has generally been difficult due to its somewhat subjective nature. In 1964, U.S. Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart encapsulated this point well when, while attempting to come up with an adequate description for obscenity for a court case, he wrote, “…I could never succeed in [coming up with a shorthand description of hard-core pornography]. But I know it when I see it…”

While technology and the pursuit of profits have served to greatly increase pornography’s current impact and level of popularity, what about its effects? Is it really a harmless form of entertainment?

Unintended Effects

There is a saying, “A tree is recognized by its fruit.” Usually an allusion to a person’s character, this phrase is helpful when judging the “fruit” or impact of something, in this case pornography—and ultimately deciding whether it harms its viewers.

Consider. Pornography is meant to increase sexual excitement, leaving people wanting to fulfill what they view. An “I want more” mentality takes hold. This craving for sexual gratification can lead to increased encounters (as well as unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, and even cervical cancer), and sex-related crimes (child molestation, sexual assault and battery, rape, etc.). Pornography is a clear-cut case of feeding the “lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes,” as one of the oldest books that details the purpose of sex, the Bible, states in I John 2:16.

Pornography unnaturally elevates sex in the mind. While some married couples view illicit material as a way of enlivening or enhancing their own sexual relations, it instead creates the opposite effect, causing a viewer to compare his sex life to that of those on screen—where all things appear much more glamorous and arousing. In effect, he becomes disinterested in his spouse, or is driven to further sexual experimentation to keep up with the scintillations provided by porn.

Viewing such material also leads to sexual addictions and further perversions. For example, porn sites often link to other sites depicting other types of sexual perversion: child porn, homosexuality, bestiality, masochism, sadism, rape and other abominations.

Pornography has also been linked to incest and child molestation. Police often find porn on an offender’s computer or in his home. Data from a study published in the Journal of Family Violence showed that 85 percent of men convicted of possessing, receiving or distributing Internet-based child pornography admitted to sexually abusing a child at least once—with the average offender molesting 13.5 victims!

Clearly, the expansion of pornography is creating a more sexually aggressive society of individuals who have opened themselves up to a new interpretation of what sex should be. These results cannot simply be written off as innocent byproducts of a harmless industry.

Impact on the Family

As negative as these results are, porn has a further devastating impact on families, as reported by Deseret News.

“Dorothy Maryon, a licensed professional counselor with the LifeSTAR Network in Salt Lake City who specializes in counseling the spouses of those who compulsively view pornography, said it is a betrayal for women to discover their partner has been looking outside the marriage for sexual gratification—even on a computer screen.

“‘I can’t overemphasize the trauma part of it,’ said Maryon. ‘It changes the way they view their partner. The damage that has been done changes the way they view themselves…It creates a relationship for her that feels very unsafe,’ Maryon said. ‘She wonders what is real. She doubts her own intuition, her own judgment…It throws her faith into crisis. She views her body differently. She asks herself, “How can I compete?”’

“Maryon said most women don’t distinguish between an affair, an escort service, and pornography. One client, trying to help Maryon understand the scope of her husband’s betrayal, said she knows of men who have only ‘been with one woman.’ Then she added, ‘My husband has been with thousands.’”

Pornography often leads to divorce. Some married couples who view it go on to adulterous relationships. This fact should come as little surprise when considering what Jesus Christ said in the gospel of Matthew when defining adultery: “You have heard that it was said by them of old time, You shalt not commit adultery: but I say unto you, That whosoever looks on a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart” (Matt. 5:27-28).

In this passage, Jesus makes it unmistakably clear that indulging in pornography is a form of adultery.

This reality is vital to understand because some make the mistake of seeing pornography as an innocent alternative to engaging in an extramarital affair. Yet studies of the brain have shown that the mind does not readily differentiate such real versus imagined experiences. Therefore, to the brain, there is virtually no difference between viewing pornographic material and an actual sexual encounter with another person, especially when recalling the experience.

Men tend to make up the largest consumer base for pornography. They account for 72 percent of visitors to pornographic sites compared to 28 percent being women. This is partly because men tend to be more visually stimulated as compared to women.

Pornography, however, is no longer just a problem for men. A growing number of women are also becoming addicted to porn. According to statistics, about one in three who visit pornographic websites are women—bringing the number who viewed pornography online monthly to 9.4 million, according to Family Safe Media.

Realize these staggering numbers only refer to viewers. They do not address the actors in film and video productions, and the negative impact pornography has on them, including the possibility of contracting AIDS.

Clearly, pornography is anything but “harmless entertainment.” It is warping and distorting the purpose of sex—turning it into a means of satisfying one’s lusts. In all, it creates a lack of natural human emotion and feelings.

Partaking in porn has many side effects that most simply overlook in pursuit of their own pleasure. Yet pornography has much deeper consequences than even its staunchest opponents realize. To firmly grasp this, one must first understand there is a supreme and divine purpose for mankind.

Overarching Purpose

Mankind’s true purpose of existence is connected to the gospel found in the Bible. Many people in and out of mainstream Christianity have heard of this term and there are nearly as many interpretations of its meaning as there are people interpreting it.

This gospel (or good news), which reveals God’s awesome purpose for creating mankind, is not readily understood by the average person. Jesus confirmed this: “And He said unto them, Unto you it is given to know the mystery of the kingdom of God: but unto them that are without, all these things are done in parables…” (Mark 4:11). Not only is the true knowledge of the gospel a mystery to most, but the understanding of it must be “given.”

According to God’s Word, every human being has a “spirit.” (This is not to be confused with the Holy Spirit, which is a gift from God as stated in Acts 2:38.) The following verses make this clear: “But there is a spirit in man: and the inspiration of the Almighty gives them understanding” (Job 32:8). Also “…theLord … stretches forth the heavens, and lays the foundation of the earth, and forms the spirit of man within him” (Zech. 12:1).

It is this spirit that separates human beings from animals. Animals function through God-given instinct, which is like being pre-programmed to perform certain functions. Mankind, on the other hand, operates through the power of the mind (another way to describe this human spirit). It is this mind or spirit that imparts judgment, reasoning and creativity into human beings.

As brilliant as is the spirit in man, unlike God’s Spirit, it has limitations. It does not give life to a person nor does it have its own consciousness. It takes information from the body’s sensory organs—eyes, ears, nose, tastebuds and skin—and enables a person to interpret it accordingly.

The other significant limitation of the spirit in man is that, by itself, it can only understand physical knowledge. The mind of a man cannot properly interpret spiritual knowledge from God. Incidentally, this explains why so many are confused or find it difficult to properly interpret Scripture.

Paul explains further, “…the things of God knows no man, but the Spirit of God…But the natural man receives not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned” (I Cor. 2:1114).

It is the Holy Spirit of God dwelling in a person that allows him to begin to understand “the things of God.” This includes understanding the “mystery of the kingdom of God.”

God, who is Spirit (John 4:24), reveals that He is expanding His Family by reproducing Himself through human beings. Within God’s overall plan of salvation, man can eventually be born into the kingdom of God and be composed of spirit just as God is.

This is part of what Jesus explained in the familiar yet generally misunderstood account in the book of John. Christ said that even though someone is born once to a fleshly (or physical) parent, it is also possible to be “born again”—only this time to a Spirit parent (John 3:8).

(While it is not the purpose of this article to detail this fascinating understanding, request Editor-in-Chief David C. Pack’s free booklet What Does “Born Again” Mean? You will be astounded at the true meaning of this often misused phrase.)

The realization that God is reproducing Himself sets up the opportunity to begin understanding the lasting negative effects of pornography.

Why Sex?

God, as the Creator of all things, created sex for a purpose. It is the product of much planning and forethought. Like all of His Creation, upon completion, sex was deemed “very good” (Gen. 1:31).

One obvious purpose for sex is reproduction. All animals engage in various forms to produce offspring. Human beings were given this ability by God, who also attached a command to it: “…Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth…” (Gen. 1:28).

God, however, did not stop with this instruction. In the book of Genesis and other Scriptures, He also instructed mankind about the proper uses of sex—including its place in a proper marriage relationship. The pornography obsession ruins this connection.

Sex, when viewed as it was intended, is a profound expression of love between a husband and wife. This is not an act of selfish, “what’s in it for me” behavior with the label of “love” attached to it, but instead is the giving of one’s self to satisfy his or her spouse. Sex was created to be a pleasurable experience and a gift from God to mankind, which was created “in His own image” (Gen. 1:27).

Pornography warps one’s view of sexual relations. It turns contact with the opposite sex into pure sexual gratification. It corrupts a viewer’s understanding of the proper use of sex. Instead of expressing love between a husband and wife, it is twisted into an act of self-fulfillment, regardless of the other person’s needs or wants. No wonder pornography has such a negative impact on marriages!

God set up the family unit as the basis for a healthy and prosperous society, and to demonstrate how He interacts with mankind. God, as the “Father which is in heaven” (Matt. 6:9) certainly knows the importance of domestic relationships. He designed the family unit to model how He reproduces and eventually leads His children. The expression of love toward one’s spouse through sex illustrates the spiritual reproduction process and His willingness to give of Himself for the benefit of others.

It should not be difficult to see how pornography distorts the true purpose of sex. Instead of a means to express love in a monogamous, committed, marital relationship, sex instead becomes a way for an individual to indulge in his own pleasure at the expense of his mate and family.

Pornography’s True Impact

As has been seen, pornography destroys relationships. It turns sex into merely a means of satisfying one’s lusts. Instead of carrying out sex the way God designed and appreciating what it parallels, people have continually sought to redefine it—bringing about a new morality in which any and every form of sex is accepted (and new forms are always welcome).

To learn much more about God’s purpose for sex, its intended role in a marriage relationship, and information about proper “sex education” for your family, read David C. Pack’s thorough book Sex – Its Unknown Dimension.

God designed sex as a beautiful act within marriage and as a way to draw couples together. It is a gift that God—the Creator and Designer of all things—gave to mankind to engage in as He intended.

It is for Real

We all get caught in the vortex of sleepiness!   We don’t intend to, but we are either at times lulled to sleep by the seeming mundane of it all or we are presented with ideas or thoughts that are just so fantastic to put into our cognitive mind that we just check out and go to sleep with the comfortable thought that it doesn’t matter or apply to me!

I want to present to you a scripture from Genesis:

Genesis 3:15 (KJV)
15  And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel.

The Hebrew word enmity is ‏אֵיבָה or Hostility, hatred.  This from the beginning was the state of affairs for all mankind in contention with Satan’s Kingdom or the Kingdom of Darkness.

Your enemy hates you and wants to destroy!  Not a comfortable statement or even less  a palatable reality!  One at war cannot afford to be lulled to sleep!  One at war cannot afford to be complacent!  One at war cannot afford to be unaware!

SO I GUESS THE REAL QUESTION IS WHETHER WE ACCEPT THAT WE ARE AT WAR!

If we feel we are not at War than really none of this awareness matters.  Live and let live becomes the melody and tone of the day!  We are at rest and at peace at all times and the decay around us becomes a sweet smelling fragrance in our nose.  Not one thing can be said to us and not one bit of information can make a difference because we have nothing to motivate us to action.

I guess it could be said that we Love so that we take a purely passive position because of Love.  How does this Love affect your relationship with the One that Hates you from scripture?  Will your Love somehow cause him to not Hate you, or will you through your passivity accommodate all he has to offer?  Even those that Love go to War to defend those they Love, just something to be reminded of.

SO FOR THOSE THAT HAVE REALIZED YOU ARE AT WAR!

You cannot be a part time warrior!  You must be ever vigilant!  You must not doubt and you must be convinced that your enemy wants to destroy you and your family and those you Love!  Do not think that you can stay home from the battle today because that thought will lead to destruction!  If you will show up God will show up!  You see he will fight the battle, and when he does it in your presence, he gets Glory because you can testify of that which you have seen!  Don’t forget that I/You can do all things through Christ Jesus who strengthens Me/Us.

Now that we have established that you are a Full Time Warrior,  I admonish you to gather to you all the weaponry you can.  Gather scripture, gather practical knowledge, and gather strength from becoming ever more aware of the fight.  Discern the strategy’s that the Spirit of God is revealing to you with which to fight and maintain. Don’t concede or give in on any front.  There will be days that you are tempted to give in on one side with the thoughts that you can win a greater battle on another front.

I TELL YOU TODAY DO NOT GIVE ONE INCH TO YOUR ENEMY!  HE IS NOT AUTHORIZED TO WALK ON THE GROUND YOU HAVE BEEN AUTHORIZED TO WALK ON!  HE AND HIS KINGDOM MUST BE UTTERLY DESTROYED AND THAT WILL HAPPEN ONLY BY YOU ACQUIRING AND HOLDING THAT WHICH HAS BEEN GIVEN TO YOU!

Pornography Addiction is very real and will probably be with us until our Heavenly Father returns for us!  It is my desire and the desire of the He Set Me Free staff to prove this statement incorrect and to utterly eradicate this Weapon of destruction in our Society.

IN SO DOING WE WILL FULFILL OUR MANDATE FROM HEAVEN!

If you need help please reach out to us at info@hesetmefree.org.

Blessings

Walking in the Word

The following is adapted from “Your Brain on Porn”, a free e-book available from Covenant Eyes….

Exploring the Bible, we can “reverse engineer” the bad training pornography has given us and replace it with God’s thoughts.

1. Porn promises gratification but only decreases our sexual satisfaction. But God is the creator of sexual satisfaction and has designed marriage for its enjoyment (Song. 4:9-16). For single men and women, it means pursuing wholesome, intentional relationships with each other (1 Thess. 4:4). For married men and women, this means renewing our minds towards our spouses, choosing to make them our standard of attractiveness. It means returning again and again to the enjoyment of sex in marriage (Prov. 5:18-19; Song. 7:11-13).

2. Porn disconnects us from real relationships, training us to believe that the best sex is solo-sex. But God has defined good sex as an expression of “oneness,” not emotional detachment (Gen. 2:24).

3. Porn lowers our view of women, training us to see each other as sexual commodities. But God created women in His image, and as such, women are worthy of great honor (Gen. 1:27; 1 Pet. 3:7).

4. Porn desensitizes us to and eroticizes cruelty. But God has designed sex as an expression of affection, not aggression (Deut. 22:25; Eph. 5:28-30).

5. Porn hooks us deeply, leading to possible addiction and sexual bondage. But God redeems our warped sex drive so that sex is a holy act of love and giving, not selfishness and slavery (1 Cor. 13:4-7; Gal. 5:22-23). Sex becomes our master when we believe the lie that porn tries to sell us: that sex is a “need.” If sex is a need, then we feel justified when we get mad at the world or at God for not giving us the sex or the kind of sex we so rightly deserve. But if sex is not a need, but rather a good desire, then we can set it alongside other good desires and go to the Word to understand its place.

For married men and women, this means surrendering our sexual desires to the Lord in a spirit of giving, not taking, and regularly returning to our spouse to be intoxicated with love (Song. 1:4; Prov. 5:18-20). For single men and women, this means surrendering our sexual desires to the Lord, practicing self control, and using one’s undivided interests to serve the Lord (1 Cor. 7:32-35).

Each of these ideas is only the beginning, but the more the mind engages with the Bible around these truths, the more our thoughts are renovated. Over time our minds will be rewired to see things the way God does. As we do this we are “sowing to the Spirit” and in time will reap a harvest of eternal life (Gal. 6:8).

Holiday gifts

As the traditional gift giving season is upon us, it is imperative that we choose what we give with educated intent …

There is a virtual cornucopia of electronic devises  that are on the market.  From laptops to tablets to phones and even watches that are going to be on some folks shopping lists.

In the hustle and bustle it is easy to get caught up in good intentions and a desire to see someone’s face light up in excitement upon receiving a new device as a gift, but allow me to interject a sobering thought…is there a filter on this device ?   Can a filter be installed on this device ?

A recent study by Pewinternet said “about three in four (74%) teens ages 12-17 say they access the internet on cell phones, tablets, and other mobile devices at least occasionally”. This means that  74% of teens have access to a mobile xxx theatre in their pocket…one that they can utilize at any time…in complete privacy and secrecy.

As a parent, a leader and a Christian I understand that we MUST help posture ourselves and our loved ones for success !

Let it never be said that we handed anyone any thing that was the cause of their destruction without having protected them through safeguards and instruction …

Just as a we would never gift a firearm without proper instruction and supervision or an automobile without proper instruction, education of safety features and instruction of safe usage…we cannot be guilty of handing  someone a devise with the potential of the destruction of their life !

Be educated !  Be intentional !   Be protective !   Be proactive !

 

Threshold Thinking

“Threshold Thinking”…

Threshold thinking is when you guard your mind by grabbing and analyzing every thought that comes to you as soon as it comes…immediately !

Don’t let any negative thought enter your mind and stay.

Do not allow lust and temptation to brush against you in its seductive and seemingly harmless way…

“Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; “(2 Corinthians 10:5 KJV)

We cannot keep the birds of thought from flying over our head but we CAN keep them from building a nest of contemplation in our hair !

Furthermore we can build a roof of covering through an overcoming relationship with God !

I know that the enemy has caused many to believe that the lust of the eye is a natural thing that you can’t change – but you  don’t have to believe everything you think !

We DO NOT have to believe the things that the devil tells us – he IS a liar !

The Word of God tells us to not set any unclean thing before us …the using of pornography is a tool of the devil  to cause us to …

1) look upon a creation of God with lust.     2) lead us down a path of destruction.     3) cause us to fall into sin and eternal damnation !

i encourage you to exercise the power and effectiveness of threshold thinking today !

Focus…

The late Reverend Billy Cole once stated……. “After you have found out what God wants you to do, it is very important to stay focused on it. Do not be distracted. For some of us, the devil will not distract with some bad thing; he’s too smart for that. He distracts with some good thing. Do not let the devil distract you, not even with something that is good.”

As we walk the path of purity, let us beware the wiles of the adversary. How subtle the serpent was when he beguiled Eve in the utopian setting of the garden of Eden…a place created for God and His creation to commune and develop a relationship of intimacy and fulfillment.

In Genesis 2:15 the bible tells us that the Lord God took man and placed him into Eden to dress and keep the garden. As Adam went about the business of naming the plants and animals it may have been a task that took quite some time…and was apparently one that allowed for some distraction. At some point in the “good” that Adam was doing, the serpent found his way to a position of influence in the garden…

The Lord had told Adam and Eve that of all the trees of the garden, they could freely eat…but of the tree of the knowlege of good and evil they were not to eat for in the day that they ate they would surely die. One tree… Every tree was permissible except one… That is where we read about the serpent meeting up with Eve. The enemy knew that there was only one place that he could get Gods creation to mess up…and that is where he camped out…and waited, and waited until finally his patience paid off.

The entire garden was created for Adam and Eve to enjoy and there were doubtlessly so very many beautiful places to go and delicious things to eat, but, as is in our human nature we seem to feel a draw toward the forbidden. So Eve has migrated toward that tree of the knowlege of good and evil and has proven the serpents efforts to have not been in vain. Eve was in the one place that she should have stayed away from…. It wasnt sin for her to go there, but it placed her near temptation !

It is imperative that we not give the enemy of our soul and place for a foothold in our minds, thoughts and lives ! Create safegaurds to protect yourself ! Flee from temptation ! You are literally running for your life… As the story of Eves interaction with the serpent continues it becomes plain to see another weakness in Eves life – a failure to know the true words that God had spoken to them… The serpent recognized that flaw and exploited it and beguiled Eve into sinning.

My exhortation to you today is to :                                                                            – watch and pray that you enter not into temptation                  (Matthew26:41)                                                                                                                                         – dont place yourself into areas that will place temptation before you (Psalm 101:2)                                                                                                                – know the Word that God has spoken, that you might not sin against Him (Psalm 119:11)

The holiday seasons are upon us and we are about to enjoy wonderful times of fellowship with friends and with family. Many people will be involved in Christmas programs, food drives, gift gathering for loved ones and for the less fortunate…many good and appropriate endeavors. While we enjoy these blessed times, let us also stay focused on the pursuit of purity ! Make time for praying before temptations come… Make time for reading Gods word that we may know His desires… Make NO provision for temptation to overtake us… Dont let the enemy catch you distracted by the good that you are doing and charm you into destruction !

It Must Be Done

Whenever it is discovered that something must be done, the only thing to do is do it.  If we meander on the field of indecision we lose precious time and advantage.  We must understand that the only determinate process once discovery has been made is to act and to act decisively.

It has been discovered that Pornography Addiction is abounding to the destruction of every man woman and child on the planet.  If it has not come nigh your doorstep consider yourself blessed, but don’t consider yourself safe.  You must act, we must act on this apocalyptic attack on the Family.  We must unite together within the authorized capacity as Sons of God and draw the line and push back the onslaught.  No more talking but the time has come for action.  I hear the sound of the going in the tops of the mulberry tree, the Lord has won the Battle and we must realize that it is time to recover our families, our friends, our neighbors.

We must act together now to destroy this enemy once and for all.  Please do not fall into the trap of thinking this does not apply to you.  Of every 10 men 6-7 are addicted to Porn and of every 10 women 3-4 are addicted to Porn.  This applies to you.  Plain and simple this applies to you.  Let me state it again this applies to you.

HeSetMeFree in partnership with God ordained and anointed partners around the planet stands here with you.  We are here on the front lines holding and advancing at the same time.  We will not allow this to continue any longer.  We will not allow this fight to be swallowed up in the mediocrity discourse of whether this fight is appropriate or not.  We will not allow this fight to be swept away into the corridors of complacency because we can’t just seem to get everyone on board.  Stop and think for a moment why everyone is not on board.  You got it, because they are in the 60th percentile.

Won’t you step up with us and stand with us in this fight.  We have set a compass against the enemy and we are ready to take back that which was stolen.

Blessings

Affects of Porn on Brain

This is an interesting article we found while researching.  Please make note of the details mentioned in this article by Anna Malika.

How Porn Affects the Brain

Posted by By Anna Malika, Morality in Media Intern | October 23, 2014
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There is no way around it—overcoming a struggle with pornography is a strenuous and sometimes a never-ending battle. Due to the fact that some of you have never experienced the thought process of someone recovering from pornography, here is a taste of it:

A man turns on his computer to research where to vacation with his wife in the Bahamas. He clicks on a website about a resort and in the corner of the page is beautiful swimsuit model. He tries to take his eyes off of it, but cannot. Just a glimpse of the bikini-clad woman triggers a return of those images from the porn he has seen repeatedly since he was a young boy. A sensation throughout his body begins and he feels that “amazing high” experienced from the last time he looked at pornography. As the high wears off, feelings of shame, guilt, disappointment and failure fill his mind. He feels powerless and weak. Swelling up within is the thought that he’ll never be able to beat this cycle. He wonders if he should just give in – at least he will be able to enjoy the few seconds of pleasure that surge through his body when he lets his mind wander to the porn. Then his wife calls him…

I’m sure some of you are thinking, “What is wrong with this guy? It’s just an advertisement and she’s not even naked!” The sad truth is that when one struggles with pornography, triggers are everywhere, especially in the hypersexualized media all around us. It often takes just a simple image to set off the chemical reaction in the brain, which first develops by looking at pornography.

Sadly, simply turning off the computer is not enough when the brain has been deeply affected by viewing pornography. If someone continues to view pornography, the effects on their brain can worsen over time and become quite extreme.

According to an article by Fight the New Drug (FTND), “Porn Changes the Brain,” the brain is constantly laying down new pathways during new experiences. This process is called neuroplasticity, neuro meaning “brain” and plasticity meaning “changeability.” Over the years, studies have found that pornography has a similar effect on the brain as drugs. Studies have found that drugs and pornography affects the brain’s “reward pathways.”

In another article by FTND, “Porn Affects Your Behavior,” it explains that the job of the reward pathways is to reward you by releasing dopamine when you do something that enriches your life with satisfying experiences and relationships. The brain’s release of dopamine is what makes us feel pleasure and builds new pathways created by a protein called FosB. This protein enables us to remember what made us feel pleasure by linking a way of thinking to a certain behavior.

In a real, intimate relationship, this is great; but it becomes detrimental if one partner is viewing pornography frequently. Arousal and pleasure become associated with viewing pornography due to the dopamine release, influencing them to continue watching pornography rather than seeking out real intimacy.

Due to the repetitive release of dopamine, the brain becomes overloaded and reacts by cutting down on the dopamine receptors. According to the article, dopamine receptors are the tiny “ears” on the end of the neuron that “hear” dopamine’s message. Since a person will need even more dopamine than before to become aroused, their cravings to watch pornography will intensify.

The repetitive viewing of pornography damages the frontal lobe of the brain, which is responsible for decision-making and logic. Any damage to this part of the brain will make it much harder to exercise willpower and self-control. As the cravings increase, it becomes easier to give in to watching pornography more often. At this point, they grow accustomed to the pornography they have already seen and the amount of dopamine released when they view it. Those images will no longer give them the same “high” and they must then move on to more intense (hardcore) pornography to fulfill their needs and increase the dopamine released.

Pornography also affects the brain during arousal by removing the viewer’s ability to see the women in porn as real people. They are so focused on their own physical responses and on the sex acts they’re viewing. The failure to see women who appear in pornographic material as worthy of empathy means the users do not comprehend that women are often being abused.

A 1984 study by Dolf Zillmann and Jennings Bryant, “Effects of Massive Exposure to Pornography,” concluded that “people who were exposed to significant amounts of pornography thought things like sex with animals and violent sex were twice as common as what those not exposed to pornography thought” (FTND). As the sexual template created by porn becomes unhealthier, the likelihood increases users will attempt to fulfill those fantasies in real life.

In order to do this, they will engage in purchasing an actual person for sex. Not only has the user’s dependency on pornography prevented them from comprehending the violence against women in pornography, is now so distorted that they see purchasing a prostituted woman (or child) for sex as acceptable. The more someone views pornography, the more flawed their perception of women and relationships become.

As impossible as it sounds, there is hope. You can overcome a dependency on pornography. As explained in the beginning, the brain becomes dependent on behaviors and changes to cater to the addiction. One way to change this is by replacing reward pathways with something else that makes you feel pleasure in a different way. These replacements could be starting a hobby you enjoy, spend more time with friends and family, or joining a sports team.

Another important step is to train your brain to become aroused by a real partner. If you are married, take steps to restore and find pleasure in your relationship with your spouse.

Your dependency on pornography has not always existed. Just like struggling with a drug addiction, this dependency can end and it can be changed! It can take time to figure out what these steps look like but it can be done!

Hidden in Shame

We want to invite you to review the video, Hidden in Shame, presented by He Set Me Free ministries.  This video highlights the passion of this ministry to facilitate the freedom of Men and Women from sexual addictions including pornography.  Christian Counselor Carol Clemans does a great job of presenting this overview and the steps necessary to begin healing!

We want to thank you for viewing the video at the following link:  Hidden in Shame.  You may contact us  for additional information.  Carol Clemans has additional resources available on her website  as well.

 

A Day of Change

Today could be a day marked by change.  It is the first day of the rest of your life.  If you are determined today to make your life whole and to reassemble the broken pieces, you can!  Scripture says that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me!  You have to want that change though.

Change is not something that happens by accident.  It will be easy for you to ignore the issues that you face in light of public scrutiny, but that will not make your issues go away!  You must make up in your mind that you will no longer suffer the false reality you have built around you and confront the issues in order to release the chains that bind you!  If you will step toward God he will help you heal!

He Set Me Free is here to help you on your journey.  For more information or for assistance please send your confidential inquiry to info@hesetmefree.org.